Transition

[Sophia]

Note: This board has a high proportion of hypocritical and hateful bullies who enjoy abusing vulnerable people. Yet I know there've got to be at least a few decent people here who aren't bullies. I know for sure there are at least one or two, even aside from Hept, who I invited. That said, bigots will be unceremoniously tossed into the ignore bin. If you can't make a reasonably respectful post, then don't post in this thread.

I'm in the process of gender transitioning to match my neurological gender identity. Non-normative gender identities exist along a complex spectrum. I presently do not desire "SRS," as is true of this trans who is among the most informative on Youtube:

YouTube - Non-Op Transsexual

YouTube - The Wrong Pronouns

To reiterate,

Many and probably most gender dysphorics are very interested in their genitalia - to the point of obsession. I'm not that way. In a sense, to me, my genitalia are more like attachments or tools than what determine my gender. IOW, my gender identity is based between my ears, not between my legs. If I could have any genital arrangement, it would probably be herm -with a penis for the clitoris, both penis and vagina fully functional. That would give me the most options. Clinging to a very strict, increasingly outdated view of gender dysphoria, several "trannier than thou" transwomen said that this attitude automatically disqualifies me from being a True Transsexual[tm]. Yet I've personally known at least a half dozen women without Y chromosomes - who are not female-to-male transsexuals BTW - who insisted to me that they'd want the same genital arrangement for themselves. Hept said that such an arrangement would be ideal for herself. The "trannier than thous" would refuse to see me as a woman because of this. Yet the chromosomal women I mention have always identified as women and no one's going to start seeing them as men. So it seems that the spectrum of non-normative gender identity is more of a nuanced continuum than even many transsexuals have been willing to accept.

One reason I'm determined to survive long term is I want to research all this and map it all out with MRIs and EEGs, doing best to link different types of gender non-normativity with different variations in the structure of the brain.

Drawing from Jung, I'm gradually developing theory and praxeology of gender individuation. This is about finding and embracing my true self.

Being a woman to me isn't anything like the way many people on this board see it - i.e., being a non-systemizer who is one-dimensionally empathetic and nurturing. Unfortunately, many FFers make disingenuous excuses for such sexist stereotyping. I am nothing like that. I already know I'm a woman so all I need to do is be myself. If I don't fit some bigot's stereotype of what it is to be a woman or feminine, then that bigot can fuck off.

As for the practical changes I'm actually making for transition, I've considered and rejected 'hormonal therapy'. Here's Andrea James (transwoman, now post-op) on hormones for MtoFs:

1. They are not a magic pill. You won't "become a woman" taking them.
2. I think of hormonal-induced changes as generally quite subtle, taking several years.
3. Do not depend on them alone to make you accepted by others as female, because they will not.
4. They will not reduce facial hair much, if at all.
5. They will not change your voice.
6. They will have an effect on body hair eventually (especially androgen blockers).
7. Androgen blockers can help reduce doses of hormones needed.
8. Androgen blockers are useful for halting scalp hair loss.
9. You will see changes in your complexion and fat redistribution.
10. Injectable hormones seemed to be more effective in my case, compared to oral estrogens.
11. They had a wonderful calming effect for me and took the edge off my sex drive.
12. You can hide the effects of hormones from others for as long as you want in virtually every case. Those who say they can't seem to want people to notice.
13. Hormones are potentially dangerous.
14. I do not recommend herbals or care about them, since their potency and safety are not regulated. Those serious about a safe, successful transition should be taking prescription hormones under a physician's care.
15. Getting a prescription and doing it supervised is often cheaper, safer, and more effective than black market options.

So basically their positive effects are very minimal and I can better accomplish those in other ways with fewer drawbacks.

I am likely to undergo several facial feminization surgeries such as brow lift, brow shave, rhinoplasty, and possibly more. I am considering breast augmentation - I've mixed feelings in that regard. This quick list is not necessarily complete.

I'll probably be setting up a Youtube channel a bit down the road showing my progress, among other things. Lana's is one of my favorites I've seen so far. She's an inspiration.

http://www.youtube.com/user/Lanalicious28

Also there's the one I mentioned above. She's very cool.

http://www.youtube.com/user/TrannyGirl15

So I suppose this is a good start for this thread on transition. I hope at least a few people really enjoy it. I'll be following up soon!

[erimir]

Originally Posted by Sophia

Being a woman to me isn't anything like the way many people on this board see it - i.e., being a non-systemizer who is one-dimensionally empathetic and nurturing.

Who sees it that way?

And when did they state that this was their view? Could you please give links to the posts where they said those things?

It would be helpful for me to know who the sexists are in our midst.

[Sophia]

Not interested in "feedback" from disingenuous apologists for sexism who flame me in most every post. You can post in the thread, of course, but I won't see the content because I don't care to take your bait. You have shown you are unable to treat me with even the most basic respect I deserve as a human being of conscience - let alone woman in particular, considering your ridiculous apologetics for scientific sexism (anyone who'd shrug off a racist equivalent to sexist Baron-Cohen would be roundly condemned by most of B-C's disingenuous deFFenders and you fucking know it). You have persisted in this behavior even after I proved that I have brain cancer.

This message is hidden because erimir is on your ignore list.

Anyway, I just ordered some synthetic wigs and accessories. Here Lana has some critical words with regard to human hair wigs.

YouTube - New Human hair wig

Lana's Youtube bio with some good links:

About Me:

Im a down to earth girl who happens to be a transwoman. I love my pooch dearly. I love my friends and my family. I also happen to love life even those ups and downs.

Favorite clothing store Long Tall Sally
Favorite wig store's
Wigs.com for their videos.
voguewigs.com for their shipping.
CmcWigs.Com for their cheaper prices.
Favorite make-up place Sephora.com

Sephora is a usually bit expensive. I recommend OhMyBeauty.com for a less expensive alternative with less markup, but not necessarily less quality.

[livius drusus]

Originally Posted by Sophia

Being a woman to me isn't anything like the way many people on this board see it - i.e., being a non-systemizer who is one-dimensionally empathetic and nurturing.

Who sees it that way?

And when did they state that this was their view? Could you please give links to the posts where they said those things?

It would be helpful for me to know who the sexists are in our midst.

[Sophia]

Even some cisgendered women may appreciate these makeup tips. Speaking of which, hat tip to the "nonexistent" (lol!) Hept for linking me to this clip.

YouTube - Makeup Tips for Transsexuals

[Leesifer]

Originally Posted by livius drusus

Who sees it that way?

And when did they state that this was their view? Could you please give links to the posts where they said those things?

It would be helpful for me to know who the sexists are in our midst.

It's not me, liv. As you know, I'm a racist in your midst.

[livius drusus]

Shameful. Isn't makeup great, though? Also mani-pedis and pink things.

[Leesifer]

oh god, do I have to watch the jewtubes now, so I can answer you? OK, if I must.

[Sophia]

Originally Posted by Sophia

Being a woman to me isn't anything like the way many people on this board see it - i.e., being a non-systemizer who is one-dimensionally empathetic and nurturing. Unfortunately, many FFers make disingenuous excuses for such sexist stereotyping. I am nothing like that. I already know I'm a woman so all I need to do is be myself. If I don't fit some bigot's stereotype of what it is to be a woman or feminine, then that bigot can fuck off.

Simon Baron-Cohen is laying the intellectual groundwork for a reversion to a "society" in which a brilliant woman such as Hept would be told from a young age that unless she's a freak, she should not be interested in supposed "men's jobs" which require a systemizing mind. That is what girls are already being taught in watered down form, with any legitimate concerns dismissed as politically correct killjoy feminazism. Ironically Hept is brighter than the male assholes here on FF who make excuses for B-C's dehumanization and objectification of women and girls in the name of science. Yes, even Erimir. She's literally way into the genius range. One important lesson is that 'kinder, gentler' and 'liberal' patriarchy is still patriarchy - a fact only further proven by the blithe dismissals by all too many men and even submissive women such as Demimonde in this 'community'.

The authors of the Bell Curve were not going to any more of an extreme than the likes of Simon Baron-Cohen - they actually had more evidence, but they were focused on 'race' rather than 'sex'. Occam's razor says that many members of this board unreservedly condemn the likes of Bell Curve authors Murray and Herrnstein but make excuses for Simon Baron-Cohen because they either support sexism themselves or do not consider it a serious problem. I'm keenly aware of the horrific effects of patriarchal domination on many levels as I have to deal with systematic sexism and also another layer of discrimination for being the 'wrong' kind of woman. Being trans helps give me breadth of perspective that I could not have otherwise. When socially a 'man' I've been around men who fully show their true colors and I know how common it is even for 'liberal' men to have sympathies for hyperpatriarchal anti-societies such as Saudi Arabia.

This quote from Samuel Johnson, compiler of the first English dictionary, summarizes the vileness of patriarchy. After attending a Quaker's meeting, which was addressed by a lady preacher, he said: "Sir, a woman preaching is like a dog walking on his hind legs. It is not done well but you are surprised to find it done at all." This is the kind of 'thinking' that will become more and more prevalent in any society in which patriarchy is unchallenged. Right here on FF many men resort to shaming tactics to try to shut up those of us who know the score.

Written by Johnson in 1738 when he lived near Oxford Street:

Here Malice, Rapine, Accident conspire,
And now a Rabble rages, now a Fire;
Their Ambush here relentless ruffians lay,
And here the full Attorney prowls for prey;
Here falling Houses thunder on your head,
And here a female Atheist talks you dead.
Prepare for death, if here at night you roam,
And sign your will before you step from home.

[Sophia]

Now to relax a bit more with some fun makeup clips...

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

YouTube - Fishnet Lips

[seebs]

Way to go! Don't let anyone tell you who you have to be.

[erimir]

Apparently being a woman isn't about not being a systematizer and being empathetic and nurturing for Sophia because instead it's all about pretty makeups and shoes!

[Doctor X]

Originally Posted by seebs

Way to go! Don't let anyone tell Jew who Jew have to be.

--J.D.

[mulebear]

I think Sophia needs to have an addadicktome and man the fuck up.


Poor Sophia... Has no clue what it means to be a real woman.

[Grizzly Adems]

Or even a BEAR for that matter.

[Blake]

Originally Posted by Sophia

Being a woman to me isn't anything like the way many people on this board see it - i.e., being a non-systemizer who is one-dimensionally empathetic and nurturing.

Who sees it that way?

And when did they state that this was their view? Could you please give links to the posts where they said those things?

It would be helpful for me to know who the sexists are in our midst.