Do you really ever know?

[catalyst]

Originally Posted by viscousmemories

I don't mean to sound like an armchair psychologist, but I used to think exactly the same thing and I think it was related to a certain degree of self-loathing. I mean, as a man how can you feel good about yourself sexually if it's impossible for you to imagine anyone being attracted to a man?

No idea, but I manage. It is not as if I find men repulsive, there is just no interest. I am well aware of the fact that most people do not agree with my tastes in many areas, and while I may not undestand theirs, I in no way feel that their opinions lack validity.

I have no problem feeling good about myself sexually. Not exactly an area where I lack confidence.

[viscousmemories]

Originally Posted by catalyst

No idea, but I manage. It is not as if I find men repulsive, there is just no interest. I am well aware of the fact that most people do not agree with my tastes in many areas, and while I may not undestand theirs, I in no way feel that their opinions lack validity.

Fair enough. It's just that you said you quite literally have no idea how anyone would be attracted to a man. So I assumed that being a man, you would have no idea how anyone could be attracted to you. Or did you mean you quite literally have no idea how anyone could be attracted to a man other than you?

[Roland98]

Originally Posted by viscousmemories

Or did you mean you quite literally have no idea how anyone could be attracted to a man other than you?

vm, meet catalyst's ego. catalyst's ego, meet vm.

[catalyst]

Originally Posted by viscousmemories

Fair enough. It's just that you said you quite literally have no idea how anyone would be attracted to a man. So I assumed that being a man, you would have no idea how anyone could be attracted to you. Or did you mean you quite literally have no idea how anyone could be attracted to a man other than you?

I have no idea why anyone would find any man attractive. There are any number of things that I do not understand, though. Entire periods of art are, IMO, utterly useless for anything other than covering a hole in the wall, yet other people find them attractive. That is fine. No one needs to share my tastes, or understand them, as long as they accept them. I can do the same wrt other people.

[PastorFreud]

I'll go with the fluid idea. And certain fluids, like this Mike's Hard Lemonade that I'm drinking, make sexuality even more fluid.

[seebs]

I'm curious about this "fluid" thing. I don't think my taste in sexual activity has changed detectably since I started being interested in the question. Is this changing thing common?

[catalyst]

Originally Posted by seebs

I'm curious about this "fluid" thing. I don't think my taste in sexual activity has changed detectably since I started being interested in the question. Is this changing thing common?

No idea. Mine has never changed. Many people's seem to, though.