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07-19-2004, 05:46 AM
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Do you really ever know?
OKay, this is probably a stupid question, but *shrug* Feel free to tell me so if you feel it.
Are you ever really sure about your sexuality, ever, in life?
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07-19-2004, 05:56 AM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
I'm gonna have to ask a stupid question to know how (or if I can) answer:
By "sure about your sexuality" do you mean orientation as in homo or heterosexual?
I mean, seriously, there are times I'm not sure about my sexuality, period. Asexual seems to be ok for me these days, though I'm sure if there was someone interested/interesting around the fire would flare back up.
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07-19-2004, 07:19 AM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
I'd have to go with pesci on this one in asking exactly "how do you mean"?
It's my theory that sexuality is quite "fluid" in homo sapiens (was just reading somewhere that the term "heterosexual" was rather recently invented, though I will have to research it).
In any case, I (obviously) can speak only for myself in that it (sexuality) is not now, nor has it ever been, something clearly delineated. I identify comfortably as bisexual, which inevitably discomfits some people, but to hell-n-back with 'em. I yam what I yam, and that's what I yam.
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07-19-2004, 08:26 AM
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Location: Austin, TX, USA
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Re: Do you really ever know?
I am really sure that I can tell who I want to fuck and who I don't. That's knowing enough for me.
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07-19-2004, 12:52 PM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
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Originally Posted by RevDahlia
I am really sure that I can tell who I want to fuck and who I don't. That's knowing enough for me.
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07-19-2004, 01:01 PM
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A fellow sophisticate
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Location: Cowtown, Kansas
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Re: Do you really ever know?
"Yeah... that", for me too. I don't wonder about it too much, but I do know what I like.
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07-20-2004, 07:33 PM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
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Originally Posted by Adora
Are you ever really sure about your sexuality, ever, in life?
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It's not a stupid question. I suggest you look at Foucault's History of Sexuality, on which there are a few reasonable introductory comments here.
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07-22-2004, 12:42 AM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
At any given moment you can be sure, I think. But to pronounce oneself homo or hetero for life is hopelessly deluded and/or limiting because...how do you know your tastes won't change? To state "I'm a hetero male, period" is to deny the possibility that you just haven't met the right man yet and sets you up to reject him--or worse, persecute him in some way due to your fear of your own biases--should he appear.
I think you can ever only know your own tastes in the moment. To state them for a lifetime is to indirectly claim omniscience. There was a time I hated dry red wine. Had I not opened my mind to the possibility that my tastes may someday change, I'd be missing out on one of life's greatest pleasures.
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07-22-2004, 12:54 AM
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Indecisive - or maybe not
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Re: Do you really ever know?
[shameless quick derail]hi huntress! I'm glad to see you here
Helen[/shameless quick derail]
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07-22-2004, 01:06 AM
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a kinder, gentler bitch
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Re: Do you really ever know?
Hi, Helen! Thanks!
Deceptively quiet, my ass.
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07-22-2004, 04:03 AM
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Re: Do you really ever know?
*ears perk up*
Did d say something about.... "my ass"?
Erm, sorry. As you were.
ON TOPIC:
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I think you can ever only know your own tastes in the moment. To state them for a lifetime is to indirectly claim omniscience. There was a time I hated dry red wine. Had I not opened my mind to the possibility that my tastes may someday change, I'd be missing out on one of life's greatest pleasures.
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Good point! I've been pleasantly surprised more than once by not limiting myself to things I've "always liked" or think are the only things I'd like.
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07-22-2004, 06:19 PM
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God Made Me A Skeptic
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Re: Do you really ever know?
An interesting and non-trivial question. I am not sure. I think you can get a pretty good idea with time. I'm pretty sure, at this point, that I'm "Just Plain Straight". I thought I was probably bi in college, but I never did anything about it... My original thinking was that I wasn't sufficiently "into girls" to be straight. My current theory is that I'm very, very, picky. The initial primate reaction of "ooh, that's a possible source of sex" triggers on the normal range of women, but I only find a very few actually attractive enough to do anything about it; under ten, so far. Luckily, I married one of 'em.
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07-23-2004, 02:57 PM
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Indecisive - or maybe not
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Re: Do you really ever know?
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Originally Posted by Adora
OKay, this is probably a stupid question, but *shrug* Feel free to tell me so if you feel it.
Are you ever really sure about your sexuality, ever, in life?
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If you could be sure, what difference would it make to your life? Or if you decided you couldn't be sure, what difference would it make?
I'm just curious.
Helen
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07-24-2004, 02:44 AM
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Raping the Marlboro Man
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Re: Do you really ever know?
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Originally Posted by HelenM
If you could be sure, what difference would it make to your life? Or if you decided you couldn't be sure, what difference would it make?
I'm just curious.
Helen
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I have no idea. I'd like to think positive, but how do I know? I always think "maybe it would make me more confident" or something like that, but I know in reality it wouldn't.
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